Wednesday, February 8, 2012

So we are all supposed to be grown ups, right?!

It has been a while since I have written and I wish this was going to be a more fun post, but I just have to put this in writing.

I decided to start a blog for many reasons, but one of the biggest was I read a LOT of blogs and love to see what people have to say.  I figured if even one person enjoys reading what I write, that is pretty amazing, so I gave it a shot.  Obviously mine is just a little blog meant for a few, but most of those I read have thousands of readers.

Over the past few days I have watched a few things unfold on some of these blogs.  I have watched moms bashing other moms for their life choices (SAHM, WAHM, work outside the home, breast feed in public or not, co-sleep or not) and I was about at my wits end when the last straw hit.  I watched 2 bloggers attack each other each claiming to be the more original blogger and criticizing the other for "stealing" each others material.  These were very public, very vulgar bashings.  As I was reading these posts I thought to myself, "aren't we all supposed to be grown ups?"  Both of these pages are for 21+ so I would hope that the admins themselves are at least 21, and I felt like I was trapped in my classroom with 2 teenage girls about to pull each others hair!

The most disturbing part was I couldn't stop reading it!!!  It was like I was a gaper driving past a car accident craning my neck as far as possible only this was much easier to see.  As I was reading I just become more and more disgusted and realized I was most disgusted with myself for reading it, so I unliked both pages and am moving on.

The reason I am writing this post is because I really feel the internet has given us this sense of invincibility and bad-assness that we typically only see in teenagers and I am wondering if that is a good thing.  I mean of course we grown ups like to feel invincible too, but how many of us would actually verbally attack a co-worker or fellow mom at the park simply for having a different opinion?

My new goal is to try and think before I type just as I think before I speak and to avoid all the drama!  I see no reason to get involved or even bear witness to behavior that makes me feel like I am teaching my 15 year olds.  It may be a cheesy old adage, but I plan to "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" and I most definitely don't want to be treated the way I have seen others treating people on many blogs lately.

Ok now this is me climbing off my soap box :)  More fun post to come soon!


  1. Meghan, I can so relate to this post! At least once a week I "contemplate" giving up facebook because of the constant bickering, or negativity. I admire your stand, to "do unto others", truly, if we all did so, half the contention in the world would end. Look at the sinister turn the political rhetoric has taken in just the last few years. Then there's the undercurrent of the far right christian conservatives against the bleeding heart liberals. Can't we all just agree to disagree? It takes all kinds to make this world go round. Could you just imagine how dull and uninteresting the world would be if we were all the same? But, at what point do we draw the line? How do we help make the world a better place so that we can leave behind some Legacy for our children. Anyway, sorry to have rambled on so much, but I really enjoyed your post!

  2. Meghan, I had posted last ngiht but it's not showing, I know exactly what you mean AND the words I have struggled to find are so close to what you have described here. Way to take a stand!!


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